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WEDDING NIGHT TIPS AND ADVICE | Shamsa

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In this video, I share some useful tips and advice for the wedding night or the 'first night' between a married couple. The wedding night is one of the most anticipated nights of a Muslim person's life. I know this may sound over-dramatic, but imagine that the wedding night is the first time a Muslim male or female is officially "allowed" to be alone with someone of the opposite gender, without the presence of a guardian. With this in mind, it is important to share some advice for newly-weds, who may be terrified at the thought of being alone with their husband or wife for the first time. It is entirely up to the couple whether they choose to have sex on the wedding night or after a few nights once they are a little more familiar with each other and feel comfortable to take things further. Also, the bride may be on her period, which would allow the couple the perfect opportunity to get to know each other better without the pressure of sex hanging over them. It is important to remember that there is no rush and the newly married couple will have the rest of their lives to get to know each other. Once both parties are comfortable, ready and consent to taking things further, they should both make an effort to make the "first night" as memorable as possible. Although it is completely normal and natural to feel nervous/anxious about the first time, the butterflies should not be allowed to take over. The excitement should be greater than the fear. The couple chose to be together, and the wedding night will be a night that they will remember for the rest of their lives. The last thing they want is to feel so nervous that they cannot actually enjoy their first time together. To make the wedding night a wonderful, memorable experience for your spouse, you must get to know what he/she likes. What are his/her favourite colours and fabrics? What type of lingerie does he like? Does she like flowers or chocolates? Candles or fairy lights? The more you pay attention to the little details and make the extra effort, the more it will be appreciated by your spouse. Prepare the bedroom to please your spouse and make him/her feel as comfortable and relaxed as possible. It is essential to look and smell good on your first night together, as you want to be as pleasing to your spouse as possible. Don't forget, most of you have been building up to this day for the majority of your adult (and even teenage) life. It is not just the women who need to smell good, men should also smell great and not overpower their new brides with nervous sweat :) Men and women should ensure that their body hair is taken care of, including the armpits and private parts, according to Islamic tradition. Cleanliness is appealing! Smell can be an extremely sensuous. Use a nice shampoo and make your hair feel, look and smell as gorgeous as it can, as this will really overpower all of your spouse's senses and he/she will be overwhelmed :) One of the main fears for the new bride in particular is that her husband will hate her body. As females we can struggle with body confidence and some of us worry that our husbands will compare us to the perfect females that they see on the TV or social media. Unless you have been walking around in multiple layers of bin bags, your new husband should have a rough idea about your body shape and will not expect you to be "perfect" naked. Our husbands are generally more forgiving of our imperfections than we are of our own imperfections. If you are extremely conscious of your body, wear lingerie that is more forgiving, like teddy or babydoll nightwear. The Muslim couple should pray together on the first night, with the husband leading the wife in prayer. What a beautiful way to start the first night of the rest of their lives in'sha'Allah :) Islam is a way of life for Muslims, which it should be on the wedding night as any other time in our lives. Before intercourse, the Muslim couple must recite the following du'a/supplication to seek protection from the evil amongst the unseen during their intimacy: bismillaah - allaahumma jannibnash-shayṭaana, wa jannibish-shayṭaana maa razaqtanaa Without actually describing the act of intercourse, make sure that you take it easy and make the act as comfortable as possible, particularly for the bride. Use massage oils/gels to enhance enjoyment and make things easier as it is sometimes painful and not always straightforward, especially the first time. Make sure you have an extra set of bed covers, especially if you live with extended family as that will save you embarrassment. After intercourse, you cannot pray salah until you have performed ghusl or the cleansing bath. It is permissible to delay the ghusl just before the dawn/fajr prayer, which would again save you embarrassment and hassle Keep some mints under your pillow to avoid breathing morning breath into your spouse's face. He/she will need time to get used to it :)
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Razin Rahman (15 hours ago)
Auntie your personality is amazing! 😆😆
Fuck You (1 day ago)
Spoilers, no actual advice here boys. Just stuff you already know make sure to take care of hygiene, make her comfortable if you are woman don't be worried about small things that are weird with your body because guy is too much of horny monkey to care.
TSOC (8 hours ago)
Bitter woman spotted
Probably you are one of the most stupid and over reaching woman i have ever seen..Come on lady, all sensible woman knew how to behave on their wedding nights
Annie ? (2 days ago)
She’s so cute awww
Salman Abid (4 days ago)
I switched it of moment she said to
khurram shehzad (4 days ago)
She is amazing I love her
khurram shehzad (4 days ago)
She is the funniest lady I have ever watched on YouTube
aria mason (4 days ago)
No one should me forced to have sex as you say. That goes for marriage also.
aria mason (4 days ago)
Why can't you say the proper words. It's calls sexual inntercourse. Sex.
Goal Den (4 days ago)
Serious question..does this mean we make babies right then and there ?? It's too early. If so.
Omar Jeylani (5 days ago)
Our mother Aisha may peace and blessings be upon her. The wife of prophet Muhammad peace be upon him use to give lectures Islamic lectures behind a veil.
Nyima Jallow (6 days ago)
SOMEONE COME AND MARRY ME LEMME USE THESE TIPS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
musammat arefin (7 days ago)
Love you Shamss for talking about weeding night. It's so refreshing to hear from a women perspective..especially for some of us who come from communities that make it impossible to talk or discuss about intimacy pre-marriage. It has become such a taboo topic in some cultures to freely discuss these topics with ones parent. Thanks for being so open and may this be helpful for married couples. And may Allah (swth) bless you and your family with success in this life and here after.
Mohammed Fahad (8 days ago)
i have no idea what you mean by getting it on ?
melissa i (10 days ago)
To be honest it hunk this video is really playing on the romantic ideal first time. Even on a wedding night, it doesn’t go down like this. Chocolate and flowers before sex? Keep them for another time, just spend some time cuddling and talking and it will go from there. It’s natural and it will happen naturally when it’s meant to. Don’t feel pressured and don’t rush. Also don’t jump into an ocean without dipping in ur feet. Aka. Try the waters abit before u commit to them, otherwise ur sexual compatibility may not be great. 0 to 100 in one night probly isn’t the best thing, let it be gradual. Also u should really talk about sex, what u both like, what turns you on etc etc.. wayyyyy before u do it... my opinion
Dumisa Nzama (10 days ago)
This is so cute!
sonu,k Guglani (11 days ago)
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rose o brien (13 days ago)
Need someone to cheer me up u really cheer me up i just want to know why muslim husbands chat bout other woman
rose o brien (13 days ago)
Thank you
Adolf Hitler (14 days ago)
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Snaggle Toothed (16 days ago)
You absolutely do not sound vulgar in any way, whatsoever. Obviously the delicate nature of the topic you addressed left you concerned about seeming crude/vulgar. You can relax and let any concern drift away because you handled the subject with tact and sensitivity. Not the slightest hint of crudeness or vulgarity appeared. Well done.
Klara 73 (16 days ago)
The First of all man should be very careful and he should not think only about his pleasure. Virgins should be week inside to have pleasure so man should creat very good feeling and be nice for woman. Kissing and nice touching is very important.
ARIFUR CHOUDHURY (17 days ago)
Share your first night experience.
I’m not a noob (17 days ago)
*iM aM sEvEn YeArS oLd*
Kartel Medeline (17 days ago)
Soo cringy. And. Those emojis in the thumbnail
Syeyadda Zainab (19 days ago)
I am 14 Idk why I am watching this! 🙈😑🤦🏻‍♀️
omgsakini (20 days ago)
LMAAAOO I LOVE HOW YOU KEEP CRACKING UP AHAHAHA
Peerzada Natiq Nabi (22 days ago)
WHY M WATCHING DIS?? 1😭😭... Y IS SHE LAUGHING??
Ayaat mukrid (22 days ago)
i am 14 now
Ayaat mukrid (22 days ago)
i might get married at the age of 17 or 18
Ayaat mukrid (22 days ago)
after watching this video i really want to get married so badly
Juli Brown (22 days ago)
You are right on point though.
Juli Brown (22 days ago)
Hehehe you are sooo cute and your video is real informative mashallah.
Muhammad Isa (22 days ago)
lubrication a must
Umm Talha (22 days ago)
Shave your armpits mate 😂
P Am (24 days ago)
Cringe level 1000
YouTube Tech (24 days ago)
I lost my wife
El P. (24 days ago)
For women today, first wedding night, is not the "first night", so no need to make introductions.
AMERICAN DANCE BAR (26 days ago)
How can I contact with you?
Monika Marciniszyn (26 days ago)
A pile of islamic bullshiet😁😁😁
John Smith (27 days ago)
Prophet raped his 6 year old wife on the first night
myboo4ever (27 days ago)
What r those emojis on the thumbnail. Gurl respect urself🤦🏻‍♀️
Adolf Hitler (27 days ago)
You would be stoned to death in Saudi Arabia for having this conversation... the west has turned you into a degenerate
Adolf Hitler (27 days ago)
Go back to the Middle East
Saleem Mohammad (27 days ago)
I don't get it, this is all elementary stuff.. why the hell do you people make such a big deal out of it?
Bran Evans (28 days ago)
Muslim men think they will get 72 virgins in heaven to rape and abuse for eternity. They take what they want any night of the week. Women are second class citizens in Islam. Remember in Islamic countries there are honour killings, female genital mutilation, polygamy, child marriage, unequal rights under the law, etc. Why is this woman lecturing us? No wonder you left living in an Islamic country. Islam is a curse on the world.
Hameed Pasha 1433 (29 days ago)
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Maj Hussain (29 days ago)
This is cringe and funny af🤣🤣 thumbs up 2 u
Adam (30 days ago)
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shadow357 (1 month ago)
Love your video thank you
Jan Khan (1 month ago)
What about pre mature ejaculation?
Arjan Singh (1 month ago)
Jan Khan Bust one before you get it on, so you won’t prematurely ejaculate
Wayne Snow (1 month ago)
The husband should make his wife comfortable as possible. If the husband makes her feel good while he is kissing her he should be be feeling good as well. The women's body has all sorts of places that will turn her on . Her neck her breast and her nipels, don't be ruff go slowly around her nipels , this will turn her on greatly as it will the husband. Place your hand on her leg and go slowly up to her private area and slowly rub your finger around her private area. This will also get her hot as well as you , kissing her as you are doing that . Don't go fast. When the husband go into her he should go slowly and stop when in , stay still for a couple of minutes and just enjoy embracing each other. Slowly go up and down and asking if she is comfortable. That's what men need to understand. It's not about the man at first . It about the two of you.
sorif miya (1 month ago)
Hi
Akshay Akhil (1 month ago)
Is this your personal experience
Teruny Law (1 month ago)
From her own knowledge: try and not get punched my your terrorist man.
zackir husain (1 month ago)
😂🤣😂👍tat was too funny oh my god i laughed so much but truth...
Ume Kulsum (1 month ago)
Iam getting so nervous just by hearing this 😂😂😂😂 o god
Sam Whinni (1 month ago)
you are annoying
Mr.b (1 month ago)
Fucking hell. She talked about how to decorate a room and bed for first 15min.
abeyaz zia (1 month ago)
I'm getting married tomorrow 😅😜
Stooch Videography (1 month ago)
Are you single lol
Stooch Videography (1 month ago)
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Sharon (1 month ago)
This was so disturbing on so many levels. Upgrade your lives people. Religion is for idiots. Live free and stop this craziness egad.
iPhones Uddin (1 month ago)
Nic
Adam East (1 month ago)
this crap vid
Adam East (1 month ago)
u woffle.too mich
Ahmad Karim (1 month ago)
You are so funny I love your video
Waheed Riaz (1 month ago)
Her make-up is look like chorrel and talking about wedding night
alisha mariam (1 month ago)
I ended up laughing the whole time 🤣🤣🤣
Ramzan Montana (1 month ago)
Girls who think sex is awkward, stop lol... it's not cool if a girl isn't kinkey
Qasim Khan (1 month ago)
love u shamsa
Sharjeel Zubair (1 month ago)
Shame on you.
Arjan Singh (29 days ago)
Sharjeel Zubair just like you said, focus on your life.
Arjan Singh (29 days ago)
Sharjeel Zubair that’s very ironic considering you’re making a stupid comment about someone else’s life. Mind your own business.
Sharjeel Zubair (1 month ago)
And popping into my comment is none of your concern brother or sister. Focus on your life
Arjan Singh (1 month ago)
Sharjeel Zubair how does it concern you? This is not ur problem to worry about brother. Please focus on your own life.
Sharjeel Zubair (1 month ago)
It seems she is not a little retarted
Amir Khan (1 month ago)
Hahahaha, lady in hijab giving wedding night advice. Priceless!
SUMEYA IBRAHIM (1 month ago)
"You should know her allergies" what if I'm allergic to awkwardness, I dn't think it's escapable 😒😒.
Sim Kaur (1 month ago)
Why not just call it sex? It’s natural, it’s normal
Rania Time (1 month ago)
Wie komt hier door cest mocro 😂
Bru Bru (1 month ago)
Like als je hier bent door cestmocro
woahxgurllx (1 month ago)
Wie is hier gekomen door Cestmocro?
Asma Yusuf (1 month ago)
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu. I’ve watched several of your videos. Masha’Allah what a sweet personality. You sure got some mixed reviews with this didn’t you, Sister? Masha’Allah, you did well in sharing a very awkward topic. It’s taboo in many cultures so it really is nice to see that someone is brave enough to share some information. I come from a mixed marriage (I’m American and my husband is Asian) so I’ve been the one responsible for sharing sensitive information. I completely understand the nervous laughter. It’s not out of disrespect or making light of a serious topic; it can just be a little uncomfortable to discuss. All of my children are of marrying age so I watched the video to see if it’s something to pass along to my daughter in particular. You really did share some good tips. If anything, the bride (and groom for that matter) could gently ask for or gesture what is needed ... and I love the idea of having a breath mint on hand for the next morning. You did good Sis. 👍🏻
ZayRay K (1 month ago)
Best tip is get in a lot of practice before marriage👍!!
XONII 01 (1 month ago)
WTF is wrong with you?? May Allah forgive you
Saadya (30 days ago)
I don’t see anything wrong
Nora Cosgrove (1 month ago)
What did she do wrong?
Amil Telo (1 month ago)
10:22, How can we know how the girls body looks like if they are in a tent?
Alex Rizo (1 month ago)
Im never getting married. I dont trust nobody
Khurram Khan (2 days ago)
Ok.
Hindi-af-somali. com (3 days ago)
Alex Rizo then trust ALLAH and fear from ALLAH.
ArdoBlueMoon (17 days ago)
+Alex Rizo Dear Alexa, I hope you eventually trust a decent and good Muslim who can make you feel happy and safe. Wallahi, it will happen inshAllah. You just have to be open minded and open your heart to it.
white M (1 month ago)
+Alex Rizo i really sorry i did not know delete my previous comment i hope you live a better live and may allah helps us all and forgive us
Alex Rizo (1 month ago)
+white M both never got married. He was abusive and abandoned me when i was born. Also my mom died after my birth. So basically it didnt go well. Also im a convert. My parents are not Muslim
Keren Safala (1 month ago)
am getting married soon & I need this advice but can you talk to me in private I need pls thanks
aibel99 (1 month ago)
Lmao what accent be that?
Hafizur Khan (1 month ago)
We know she banged on the first night ahaha exposing yourself
Imy Hussein (1 month ago)
Hafizur Khan funny guy
muqsisho cadeey (1 month ago)
My first night was really painful as virgin but that was my happiest night in my life 😋
Abdul Wasif (1 month ago)
Sab pta h yr kya krna h kya nhi
Syed Haider (1 month ago)
Helpful
Umer Mohammad (1 month ago)
I’d be honest , I put the video on mute and enjoyed reading all the comments... this is some auntie ... why would you make videos like this wtffff randhi horny, she should tell her daughter not us
Salman Patel (1 month ago)
what did i just come across smh lol.
Moeen G (1 month ago)
Ahh a subject that's not spoke about much. Good job sister. As for maritial affairs you women need to understand, us men couldn't care less about what you look like naked. If he marries you he's already thought about all that. Wheter you like it or not. No guy is going to say yeah to marrying you without actually LIKING AND APPROVING off you. Unless you just got married to keep your parents happy. If that is the case you could find problems but not always. As for the 2 people who liked each other you can't say it will stay the same if you then want to experience things like non muslims. Dirty talk etc. Lots of muslims girls are regular viewers of porn these days. The things I've had said to me has left me flabbergasted
abuaseel01 (1 month ago)
I don’t think I’m ever going to get married because I’m a fat guy, and no one wants to marry a fat guy. I’ve tried so many times to loose weight and I can’t. Is it haram not to get married?
wiZDom (1 month ago)
not haram, ur choice
Hamza Tariq (1 month ago)
To being honest I don’t hate YouTuber but seriously I done watching YouTube FOR LIFE I DO NOT WHAT TO SAY
bibi Khan (1 month ago)
Remember my wedding night , was too tooo funny inshallah will never forget it❤️😂
Afghan Girl (1 month ago)
very nice and helpful tips im gonna married next month
Hinata Kaito (1 month ago)
She plays too much 😂😂😂❤️
waqar khan (1 month ago)
Sahi meerpuri. Don't need anyone to learn from it's natural every one has natural ability to Deal with that
Death Row (1 month ago)
Some women are so stupid, and naive. They make such drama's out of nothing. I'll be honest, and say that 95% of girls have already "done it" before they leave school. So this is nothing new for most women or girls who are going to listen to this. Don't act like your in some Indian drama. Flowers, chocs, is so sleazy. Just ask God for happiness, and good health. Forget all these little stupid things. Women never grow up, dancing on weddings, acting like minions.
The Art of Living (1 month ago)
Romantic snd msg
FunBoyMumbai (1 month ago)
Do sharing such topic on web is approved under shariah law?
Umar Farooq (1 month ago)
Nice look

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