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How To Deal With Social Anxiety | 5 Tips To Overcome Anxiety

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Alpha M. Confidence Course: http://aaronmarino.com/confidence-course Subscribe To Alpha M. https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting?sub_confirmation=1 My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services and Products: http://www.aaronmarino.com Alpha M. App: http://www.alphamapp.com/ My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services: http://www.aaronmarino.com Free Hairstyle E-Book: http://http://www.iamalpham.com/ezine Best Hair Product: http://www.peteandpedro.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmAlphaM In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com and http://www.aaronmarino.com, discusses 5 tips to overcome social anxiety. Social anxiety is something that can be beaten if you take action and control of the situation. You deserve to be happy and experience great times with good people. This video will help you deal with social anxiety and provides some helpful tips to overcome anxiety. Do you get nervous and a little self conscious when you walk into a room of people you don't know? Butterflies and anxiety are normal when getting up and giving a speech in front of people. Social anxiety is beyond that-- it's an absolute fear. It's so strong that it prevents you from going places and doing things. It's limiting happiness and the ability to socialize. Social Anxiety Triggers Aaron Marino of alpha m. says social anxiety an irrational fear of embarrassing yourself or getting intensely scrutinized. Alpha covers triggers: meeting new people, being the center of attention, making small talk, public speaking, being called out in class, eating in public, going out on a date, using a public bathroom. Do You Have Social Anxiety? Warning signs are stressing and being anxious about doing everyday things; worrying for weeks before an event; feeling that you constantly being judged or picked apart. Behavioral symptoms are deciding not to go to attend an event, bringing along a friend, standing in the background, or drinking before going to an event. If you have more fear than fun, take the steps to get your social anxiety in check. Getting Social Anxiety Under Control 1.Challenge your own negative thoughts. 2.Learn to control your breathing. 3.Face your fear. 4.Seek professional help such as a therapist. 5.Medication.
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bri i (1 day ago)
Tips start at 3:20
Online Music Library (2 days ago)
The fact that typing this comment is social anxiety because I am afraid that people I know will see this and judge me based on the things I say and based on the fact that I am looking at this video...
Fazlur Munthaqui (3 days ago)
I get nervous while talking to customers
Navaneeth Krishnan (4 days ago)
Accept it. Everyone have some amount of social anxiety
Elijah L. (4 days ago)
Anyone else have social anxiety to the point where u rather be dead than going to a family gathering
Makayla Dorsey (5 days ago)
This fucked up illness is ruining my life and i cant take it. Ughhhh
Robert Lowry (5 days ago)
Just got a great new job but have training for a whole month that consists of role playing and presentations almost everyday. I'm trying to figure out how to get through this. Everyday is an internal struggle.
Na Ba (5 days ago)
Someone:want to go to go to this socal seting Me:NO no no no no no no no no no Also me: F*CK it lets go!!!
Thank you! I needed this!
kpop and kdrama fan (6 days ago)
I have social anxiety but i don't dare to tell anyone because i know they are just going to send me to a counselor or a therapist . i get nervous eating in front of people ( even my family ) i couldn't even swallow properly without worrying if anyone is judging me . I also get uncomfortable breathing alot of times when I'm out or when im with alot of people . And when im walking outside i feel so uncomfortable thinking that people is looking at me and because of that i tend to stumble alot when i walk. I get really worried if someone is standing beside or behind me even if its far away . I tend to also hide alot when im out. and also i don't dare to express my feelings much when im with my family , i feel like if they try to understand they are trying too hard and its uncomfortable , and sometimes when my mum says things that i feel offensive or selfish ( she's not a really consideate person) , i really feel like shedding even a tear would be nice but i always hold myself back and have some reality pep talk in my head .
Argha Das (7 days ago)
And who puts us in this situation?.......it's our own people's......I don't believe anyone....
AYellowBarn (7 days ago)
medication aka weed
free chicken (8 days ago)
I feel like i'll never get over my social anxiety. I've had it since i was 4 years old. I am currently 14 and i do not feel comfortable leaving my room to go downstairs because i imagine people looking at me and making fun of me every time i move a muscle. I started high school in september, and I still haven't talked to anyone, made eye contact, actually said full sentences, and I don't feel comfortable drinking water, breathing, eating, etc because of the noises those things make, and i feel like it brings negative thoughts to other people about me. I want to be invisible, but I also want friends. I honestly wish I could kill myself, but i know how much my family cares about me, and even though they do, i still feel unwanted, stupid, terrible, annoying, depressed, and any bad adjective. My family says that i should step out of my comfort zone and try to talk to people, but I don't have a comfort zone because i don't feel safe doing anything a normal person does. Because of this, i can't see myself being much more than a waste of life in the near future. I wish i had someone to talk to, but i don't want to be noticed. I won't get better, and I know it. I hate myself.
Fag Fagertson (8 days ago)
Is it weird that I have all these encounters but I don’t sometimes ??
Fag Fagertson (8 days ago)
Like I can be social as hell but sometimes I just feel anxious and I don’t know why??
Lisa Keech (8 days ago)
I have social anxiety but thanks to my dogs they help me
tim lee (9 days ago)
god bless you, do you now much you help people, I watch your channel from Morroco
Noah Langrehr (10 days ago)
All of this is me
Agol Matias (11 days ago)
Yesterday i went outside to watch dance battle. I feel so nervous i dont know why. I feel like im gonna pass out seeing too many people. I feel like i was in the stage dancing with unknown people. Sorry for my bad English.
Ainaa Abdullah (11 days ago)
people don't want to sit beside me bc i'm so quite when actually i'm scared :(
Enimo (11 days ago)
But I know people judge me
CowKiller007 (12 days ago)
I have this thing where i can be really anxious in a social situation but their are times where everything is perfect its really weird
Giraffe Rachel (12 days ago)
I have to go to a trampoline park soon. I don’t have many friends that live around here, and my one best friend can’t go. I already got tickets and they were pricey. I would feel horrible if I wasted it and didn’t go😬 but I’m scared to be alone and I don’t wanna be uncomfortable for a long period of time. It’s in a few days and oof
Justinea x.x (12 days ago)
I never knew I had social anxiety 🤔 Literally all of the points remind me of..me. I think I have it pretty as as well. I DO worry that people are judging me all the time. And every little thing I do I fell is going to be amplified
Justinea x.x (12 days ago)
On the way back from school when getting the bus. I get Nervous just sitting down. I don’t like all the eyes on me and sometimes I fell awkward taking my bag of in a cramped space
Samantha Reyna (13 days ago)
I have a art competition that I have to attend to and I’m sooo scared...like we have to do a interview and last time I did a interview it didn’t go well. It gets so bad that I literally start to shake and I can’t even pronounce a word..I stutter and loose train of thought. It’s so hard and no body..not even my closest friend understands me. I feel like I’m alone. It feels like your standing back while everyone else is going forward and I’m just watching. Idk anymore. My mind is my own killer and I’m tired of it.
Rico Roijé (13 days ago)
Great vids men! really helpful
Rbnsn 123 (14 days ago)
What if those people already judge you, and speak shit about you but you know about it... But those Poeple haven't said those things to your face?
Unstable Concoction (15 days ago)
Im just not that OUTGOING OK.....
Ari 4life (15 days ago)
I was talking to my friend and this kid from one of my classes came up to me and asked : “ _Why don’t you talk in class_ ?” I was trying to come up with a reasonable response but I realized how long I was standing in silence so I just shrugged. My parents usually question me when I don’t want to go to a public school function even if my friend is going.I’ve been more distant from my family because it feels like they don’t want me there or would rather be talking to someone else.It’s just hard ya know? Edit: I only have one friend rn lol.Most of them left because I was to clingy or maybe not clingy enough idk 😐 ʇno pǝssǝɹʇs ɯ,ı ʍou puɐ
jyotirmoy Debbarma (16 days ago)
Sir please help me how to overcome nervousness.
希望Gekyume (17 days ago)
I expierence physical pain in my stomache if i have anxiety ( f.ex. in school) . I have this for about 9 years now and it only grows bigger . No one i know believes me .
GamerGurl142TM (17 days ago)
I’m waiting for highschool to be more open I haven’t spoken to the people in my classes who aren’t my friends and I feel like it’d be weird if all a sudden I started being really open
Gajinder Singh (17 days ago)
Its all about thought process
- Skeleton (17 days ago)
Who else always gets asked this; Why do you never talk?
SpecTruM_Snake (17 days ago)
I don’t like using public bathrooms because it’s like school bathrooms and I’ve been jumped like 6 times and don’t trust anybody
Duy Mai (18 days ago)
I have social anxiety whenever I am on the phone
Justin Manangan (18 days ago)
Just from him defunding what social anxiety was has gotten me bawling
CG760 (19 days ago)
Hmu if ur anti social or have social anxiety so we can help each other chrisg_765
Pexxan (19 days ago)
I cant sit in front of class because i feel like everyone is staring at the back of my head and watching my every move even though i know theyre not. Ive even skipped classes because i was 5 minutes late and there were no seats in the back. Just one of my MANY every day problems with social anxiety and just anxiety in general.
BrianJC (20 days ago)
Intak ุ (20 days ago)
I have social anxiety and I also have a breathing disorder, so even when I freak out due to the anxiety I can’t just take deep breaths and calm down. It’s terrible, even around my best friends I get stuck thinking about how stupid I must look, and how stupid I must sound, then I just stop talking and then I worry that they think I’m weird because I’m not talking enough, it’s terrible! I just want to feel normal and happy! It feels like I’m missing out on everything fun.
iDR3KON (20 days ago)
*This Happens To Me Alot, I'm In A UK High School On The Final Year At The Moment And We Usually Have To Do Long Talks In Front Of The Class, And Trust Me On This One Mr. Alpha, I Literally Pissed Myself From That Fear*
Maha Maqsood (22 days ago)
I'm afraid to even sit in a class but unfortunately in my society people think these things do not exist it's just in your head 😭
Rafael Irachal (14 days ago)
Maha Maqsood how old r u?
I literally feel anxiety for no reason
ADM-ALLENDAMAN (23 days ago)
This comment section is so relatable omg
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Doge_is_ life (24 days ago)
I moved school districts 2 years ago... and still haven't made any good friends. I have like casual friends to talk to, but no friends that I'm close with. I always see people who went to the school district their entire life, so they are extremely close with EVERYONE. At my old school I wasn't friends with everyone, but I had MUCH better friends. None of my friends here are "invite to a sleepover close".
The NewGeneration (25 days ago)
i need friends !! it sucks to have social anxiety anybody here who has social anxiety wanna be friends lol ?I'm 21
The NewGeneration (7 days ago)
+apbarriosified My facebook : Ahmed Khelili
apbarriosified (7 days ago)
Yes me!! Im 22
Jew Fro (25 days ago)
Bro my friends don’t even invite me places anymore cause they know I’m like this
So when I go out in public I have the thought in the back of my head that people are looking at me every step/movement I take I just feel dizzy. (dizziness is my biggest nightmare) am I the only one??
Tlou_FanForLife (24 days ago)
I feel the same way for the past 12 years
adam alderso (26 days ago)
Salut mon petit
m&m M7M (26 days ago)
I can go out to a store but if I run into someone who wants to talk I have the worse panic attach. I've dealt with this crap all my life and it's getting worse because I stay at home now being unable to work from other health problems. I
shortsleave (27 days ago)
Right, a loud extrovert is exactly who I want to hear from on this matter.
Nitin chopra (28 days ago)
This is equal to death
mixwb (28 days ago)
Okay guys I've been dealing with this since I was 18, I'm 22 now. I've noticed this is quite common in young adults, is this something that will naturally go away with age? Or I can have this for the rest of my life? Thank you
mixwb (24 days ago)
+Tlou_FanForLife So basically the more I stress about not stressing, the longer I stay stressed and anxious... I feel bad for you man, I'm here if you wanna talk
Tlou_FanForLife (24 days ago)
It's typical for young adults but it's random if you will have it for the rest of your life. I've had extreme anxiety for the past 12years
Lena Shawarby (29 days ago)
5:33 that includes TELLING someone about my anxiety. I can't do that
Lena Shawarby (29 days ago)
My social anxiety is SO BAD that I decided to not wear a scarf (I am Muslim) bc I didnt want any sort of attention and with all this "terrorism" u stereotypes going around in my high school. I know everyone would start judging me.the worst part is im too afraid to tell ANYONE I know or trust
Lena Shawarby (29 days ago)
Watching this makes me realize that my social anxiety is BBBAAADDD
Lena Shawarby (29 days ago)
I know I have social anxiety and I FOR SOME REASON joined debate......................yeeeaaahhhhh it did NOOOT end well. Lets not get into details about what happened
Otaku-baba (1 month ago)
History - got bullied in my new school for a year didn't had a freinds used masturbation to cheat my feelings,never asked for help everytime i retailate bullying got worst,stopped to react only pain pain pain then its nothing nothing nothing,school got changed meeted new live without knowing i am heavily socially Anxious never talked to a girl upfront,got addicted to porn and become lazy and studiou,no one saw sadness in my heart,lived in fear and hate Present---6 years later---Still lives in fear of getting bullied,don't have any genuine friends still no one can see sadness in my heart everyone thinks i am shy,lazy or stupid.Kicked some bullies asses during these times but yea peace is all i desire trying to stop my porn addiction,badly addicted now.It's so fcking crazy no one asked how i feel? am i good? do i need help?? in all these years Parents say just study and life will be better.Yea it can get only better after death nothing can change it now.I wasn't aware of the concept suicide during i got bullied now i think i should have died there,its just suffering i give to everyone wasting others time and money all i do-----------fck me i am so retarded to write this i should just study,then atleast can make some fake friends who will just going to use me or if i got luck some will bully me then i can get a reason to destroy someone......ahh having fakers all rounds is so nice its kill you everyday,they talk like friends to each other but leave you out during fun times,only fun you can have with them is when you gett bullied ----year or before o thought of killing them but i am not that stupid i know i will go to jail,,,,, fack i have counsellor for free here in my college once(2 years ago) i went to her she did warn living in fear will make you life shit,but i can't do anything about it ,i fought with my bullies but then friedns come make them appear like victim hello??wtf??You destroy one another stands up,but oviously there are coward so they keep there distance now!!!! I know its my mistake i don't go to people to talk and make genuine friends but i am afraid i see people who are better than me,hell,i don't even have self respect i can call myself bitch and would not guess why its wrong to say a bitch a bitch even though i am a a guy............too much stupid shit but yeh i can write all of this here means presently i am in peace,nopppp i am going to be butchered in my exams this month end i don't study at all,i am making a reason for my suicide bc you know what if i suicide now no one can guess the reason, but if i will have a all rounder shit life i guess then they can,,,,,,,,,,i lie to my parants they thinks i am doing best in my life.............someone will sure thinks i am doing this for attention na broo, i used to keep a diary where i used to write to write all dark stuff but i stopped doing that now its building up,i want to let it out,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,obviously i am not going to end my life.......i otaku have no reason to live and no reason to die.............my english is poor i think you call these type of comments rants i ranted my self...cause i hate myself i dont hate mu life i hate my lazy,full of fear,child like,retarded also i lie to myself and everyone else it doesn't matter if no one read this i am going to read this everyday(lie)to remember that this is what i am,bc i forget this when i pretend to fit in society------wtf???why am so retarded (btw i don;t know how retards)but i like this insult when i say it to myself--fckkkk offffffffff
Diana Maria (1 month ago)
For anyone who wants to skip directly to the advice (because they know very well what anxiety and all that bullshit means), go to 3:20
Rafael Irachal (14 days ago)
Diana Maria yes
Queen Haley (1 month ago)
Omg all of this is me tho ex:i never talked in class and always got nervous if a teacher called me and i had so much anxiety so i left school and got homeschooled and i dont want to talk to people cause i get really nervous and i start hyperventilating
Faith Berlia (1 month ago)
Job interviews are literally worsttt
Akito Achumi (1 month ago)
My mind just go blank I dont have anything to spark conversation
Ness HS (1 month ago)
Vegan Peasant (1 month ago)
I've missed on 10 yrs worth of promotions because I would miss meetings or go missing during social events at work, like christmas parties......everyone at work caught on.....they all connected the dots and realized that I had social phobia. This made my going to work even worse because everyone knew, like my social anxiety is a secret yet everyone at work has found out. Id rather be perceived as a snob and rude than to be labeled as a social phobe. How embarassing! I am also brutally awkward when I talk to people and I can't control my eyes, I look angry and weary. It's a mess.
wEird AssHOle (1 month ago)
I have to get something for my mom's birthday and I'm fucking scared as hell to walk outside ....I feel like ordering something online
Lul Hazard (1 month ago)
Most of these people in here are light skin 😂
mimz masinga (1 month ago)
i suck at interacting , my mom thinks im mean because id rather sit in silence than talk
Lana lee (1 month ago)
I have anxiety about my chest area I never show it I cover all. My. Body up I'm. Scared all the other people don't do it it's just me it's so embarrassing because I have alot of boys in my house only 4 girls and 7 boys I have alot on consiesness I have had consiesness for about 2 to 3 years nearly 4 since I was nine growing in the area I'm. Just scared I can do it when. My. Mom's. Around but no. Body abuse. My. Mom. Has the same. Life cause she's a girl
Jeremiah is a goat (1 month ago)
Its like this for me, but with hot girls.
Lagg Buster (1 month ago)
Bollocks, you get that way because your an introvert and being with people drains you, so you need down time to recover.
I see your videos more and more and you give great advice. I'm surprised you broach this topic because you seem like such a confident person...but I guess all humans struggle with the same things. Thanks for this video!
Lavinia Tan (1 month ago)
In some cases challenging my negative thought has helped and in other cases made me seem awkward, which just makes me panic and more negative thoughts come in. Sometimes to the point where i avoid that person for the rest of the day. If i face my fear a lot of the time it makes it worse. And i am afraid if seeing a therapist. What do i do
maria Lutsenko (1 month ago)
I am a girl and I subscribed
Ethelya Vlogs (1 month ago)
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Simon Mektouptchiyan (1 month ago)
I'm seeing a therapist, and she tells me that I need to write down my thoughts and separate feeling and real evidence. It's a good tip but I'm not good at it. Medication is not a good long term solution imo. Tried doing it, supervised by a specialist, but even they recommend not taking it (more than 2 weeks) because its addictive and makes you dependent. I don't know honestly. But to the people who are reading this, if you have social anxiety and still have friends, do not leave them. I'm saying this from personal experience, it doesn't help. It makes you more afraid because then you won't have any reference for any social etiquette.
Aidan Collins (1 month ago)
I’m a young actor and am going to meet an agent but I’m scared I will freeze up
The OUTCAST (1 month ago)
Your tips are great but my anxiety is in control everything you said that social anxiety effects. Effects me. I'm trying in life but you know anxiety can put you in the mud and well I'm in the mud. People watch me but say nothing and when they do say stuff negative thing come at me. I'm get bullied. I call my self the outcast. But yeah my social anxiety would lessen if people tried to be my friend.
EntityX iOS (1 month ago)
no one can help me, i talk to much then people say how annoying i am....... I have Aspergers but not on a sever level, I don't understand sarcasm that well or emotions..... and my anxiety gets way worse then most people, and i end up wanting to kms because I'm different and no one wants to be around me....
animal lover (1 month ago)
Im 13 and have been avoiding taking a guitar test in music I hate bwing under preasure its like 2 minutes probably and the way its done is u go to the teachers desk and play in front of him but its every friday and I keep missing fridays cause of it
Jasmine Lidia (1 month ago)
All me
Miss Phantomhive (1 month ago)
thank you!
Timothy Campbell (1 month ago)
Anyone want to go to the bar?
Peng YMGL (1 month ago)
No one wants to speak to me because I’m quiet and not like the other cunts that are loud and get detentions
Steve (1 month ago)
That's a disorder I can't help myself out with any of these tips. I think I will stay like this forever..
Son Goku (1 month ago)
https://discord.gg/zYUWrX Here you go
Steve (1 month ago)
Son Goku Alright. Thx mate. I'm doin it.
Son Goku (1 month ago)
Do not even worry dude, we will be texting thats all:)
Steve (1 month ago)
Son Goku ....I might give it a go. But how can I just enter a chat group and be like hey..there. It's gonna be awkward.
Son Goku (1 month ago)
You can text people there instead, just dm them, in fact you could text this guy who is a youtuber, i promise its worth the shot.
Dayib DJK (1 month ago)
I dont know how to talk to people,cause you know they may not answer sometimes to you and so messed up and akward who else has the same problems?
いちごミルクEden (1 month ago)
I have to make a follow up call to a job application and set up a time for an interview... This is literally terrifying but this helped. I just have to remember it's not the end of the world.
Lehlogonolo Maanaso (1 month ago)
does anyone else feel frustrated and emotional breakdown whenever you are exposed to people?i mean i wasnt like this wtf changed
Lehlogonolo Maanaso (1 month ago)
I''m goddamn single because of social anxiety shid i need help
xxnzy (1 month ago)
lol my anxiety is so bad that i saw a couple people that i knew over social media at the movie theatre and they whispered something and laughed all i heard was my name but i was crushed for days i have no idea why i am like this
SmallTownHitman (1 month ago)
damn I have social Anxiety but some of these comments I see that people have it a lot worse than I. Hang in there guys you got this always try to overcome your fear like he says in the video. :)
gnana guna (1 month ago)
Hii Mr alpha sir ..did you really take a look at the comments below...the people are actually crying including myself so please do something to make all people in this comment section to know each other please sir it's my humble request
gnana guna (1 month ago)
I'm in home for three days for fear of anxiety and I had a consultant year ago that didn't work.guess what my life is damn as hell ruining.im not kidding here folks...help me if there's anyway to combat this fucking anxiety
Emilio González (1 month ago)
I have been struggling with social anxity most of my life, but recently with the help of videos like this I was able to overcome it to the point that I can say that I am happy the way I'm living right now. I uploaded a video with the hope that I can help someone overcome this irrational fear that is social anxiety.
Pranav Sasidharan (1 month ago)
Marijuana is my medication
Jessica Torres (1 month ago)
this is why i cant even tell a waitress what i want at a restaurant .........!!!!!!!!!!!!
Uyi Igbinoba (1 month ago)
I feel better now. I was thinking that i am the only One in the world going through this
I wanna be the person that runs into a classroom the first day yelling and being like "AYYYYY MY CLASS YOUR AMAZING"
Helen 2005 (1 month ago)
If you see this please answer me. I don't know if I am socially awkward. I am afraid to start a conversation because I feel I am gonna messed up everything and look like a weirdo. I always think everyone are judging me and I don't feel comfortable to speak infront of people. Is this social anxiety or am I just shy?

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