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How To Deal With Social Anxiety | 5 Tips To Overcome Anxiety

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Alpha M. Confidence Course: http://aaronmarino.com/confidence-course Subscribe To Alpha M. https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting?sub_confirmation=1 My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services and Products: http://www.aaronmarino.com Alpha M. App: http://www.alphamapp.com/ My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services: http://www.aaronmarino.com Free Hairstyle E-Book: http://http://www.iamalpham.com/ezine Best Hair Product: http://www.peteandpedro.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmAlphaM In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com and http://www.aaronmarino.com, discusses 5 tips to overcome social anxiety. Social anxiety is something that can be beaten if you take action and control of the situation. You deserve to be happy and experience great times with good people. This video will help you deal with social anxiety and provides some helpful tips to overcome anxiety. Do you get nervous and a little self conscious when you walk into a room of people you don't know? Butterflies and anxiety are normal when getting up and giving a speech in front of people. Social anxiety is beyond that-- it's an absolute fear. It's so strong that it prevents you from going places and doing things. It's limiting happiness and the ability to socialize. Social Anxiety Triggers Aaron Marino of alpha m. says social anxiety an irrational fear of embarrassing yourself or getting intensely scrutinized. Alpha covers triggers: meeting new people, being the center of attention, making small talk, public speaking, being called out in class, eating in public, going out on a date, using a public bathroom. Do You Have Social Anxiety? Warning signs are stressing and being anxious about doing everyday things; worrying for weeks before an event; feeling that you constantly being judged or picked apart. Behavioral symptoms are deciding not to go to attend an event, bringing along a friend, standing in the background, or drinking before going to an event. If you have more fear than fun, take the steps to get your social anxiety in check. Getting Social Anxiety Under Control 1.Challenge your own negative thoughts. 2.Learn to control your breathing. 3.Face your fear. 4.Seek professional help such as a therapist. 5.Medication.
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Martin Delgado (2 hours ago)
I'm in a point of my life where my social anxiety is slowly peeling away, I'm not so nervous anymore; however I'm still incredibly awkward. I have had many failure dialogue experiences, that I fear making conversation and/or friends has just become impossible. When I finally have the courage to speak up amongst a large group of people or even 3 people I get completely ignored or overshadowed by some one else's rhetoric. I feel this is mainly because of how my shyness and awkwardness tends to phrase my statement(s). I really want to make friends and I know my inner self can bring a lot to the table of a friendship, I just can't get past the fear of others judgement or my mistakes in conversing. Hopefully this too shall pass.
Avatar Aang (7 hours ago)
This is where I come to when I feel like I am all alone with this problem. Just reading through the comments reminds me that im not the only one struggling with this issue. I know it is gonna be difficult but I need to face this fear eventually.
S P O O K E D (12 hours ago)
My teacher embarrassed me and after school i spent the whole day crying because i was so embarrassed.
julius dogta (1 day ago)
im experiencing this right now my friend invited me to his baby showering but his sister and i weren't very close and never talk for a very long time so i ended up not showing and right now he doesn't want to talk to me i feel so bad because im always shy when meeting new people maybe it's because im afraid of what they would think of me i really dont want to lose him he's a very nice friend and i just blew our friendship for my stupidity and awkwardness im starting to lose confidence and hate my self :( any advice?
Luna-Tic (1 day ago)
I have a degree of social anxiety...
MERIMIX GAMING (1 day ago)
can i ask you a question ? So i have a girlfriend she is 16 but her exx somtimes comes over randomly and she says there just frinds but everytime this happens i get mmad heartbeats and shaking and shit idk what it is, it's also the fact that it's an EX like mmost women give them up........idk but if i could get some answerers that would be awesome
Andrew Anderson (1 day ago)
May have social anxiety... 29, two friends who live out of state, no girlfriend in 9 years... time to get this figured out.
TheIcyDog (2 days ago)
I am stuttering, and i have social anxiety. I really wanna interact with other people more, but i just dont know how...
paulmcg1 (2 days ago)
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Tails and Scales (2 days ago)
The college I'm applying to gives you the option of having a single room all to yourself. Heaven
Cøde. (2 days ago)
Me: Why are you bullying people? Bully: Becausw it is cool to be a bully and you'll never understand it because you are a loser. Wow...
A R (3 days ago)
Hello fellowes, has anyone tried reading any of these books? Most helpful books you've read? http://shynesssocialanxiety.com/social-anxiety-books/
Emma Roussel (4 days ago)
It sucks because I have really cool people that I want to be friends with, but I just can't seem to speak up or talk. My muscles start twitching and my cheeks get hot.
Lori• (4 days ago)
I also have social anxiety but, i know these people that i worry of i have an only bestfriend but she only talks with her other friends (its not like shes a fake friend or anything its just her friends) her friends also know me but dont really talk to me, im just left out, my bestfriend comes and supports me at times. I walk with her in the lunch break and talk to her and all but im just uncomfortable, and i also think that people talk behind my back i dont really know, but im always am silent except with my bestfriend, i only talk to people who start a conversation with me. But then they just leave, they just ask me like stuff about the homework and stuff, im moving soon and i cant wait to just restart my life ill miss my best friend, but im just to scared.
Marco Fonza (5 days ago)
Sometimes I have confidence to make the move first like start a conversation, small talk, make friends with new people. And when I get home I feel very proud of myself for doing that. But most of the time I'm always left behind and worried if what I'm going to say even makes sense, or if I would act awkwardly in front of everybody. Damn it's tough. Though, I'm still confused about these two terms: introvert and social anxiety. I personally love being out with friends, I love myself some new friends, but I prefer people to come talk to me first then I'll be comfortable talking to them. I remember when I met my partner's close friends for the first time at a party. It went just well, everyone liked me. But guess what? I prepared myself for one week prior to that party LOL.
Pablo Venegas (5 days ago)
I am afraid of going to a party and being introduced ti someone I, hate
Pablo Venegas (5 days ago)
I Also hate to deal with someone, I hate and talk to them
Gian Volante (5 days ago)
Had full on panic attacks in the past, wouldn't wish those on my worst enemy.
karlo x (5 days ago)
I have social anxiety....smileing without reason helps allot :)
the cruel world (5 days ago)
Its way too much with me my vision start to turn dark and my heart beat really fast and sweat alot like I'm about to faint its waaay to much I don't really have a problem with talking to somrbody but when I stand infront of the class I got nervous way too much
Bel vem (5 days ago)
Thank you for the tips
prabhanjan Bhat (5 days ago)
My hands and legs starts to shiver when I go to say something in front of class or anything like saying speech , donno y but they do
Nephilibata (5 days ago)
I am constantly embarrassing myself because of social anxiety, to a point that that im planning to quit my job. And I just graduate for a year. I need help..
Aamin Gill (6 days ago)
to the best of us !
Alex California (6 days ago)
Thanks man! I appreciate all the advice! I love it! Im gonna do my best! I'm going to have to pass on the medication.
Grace (6 days ago)
What if you are just happy on your own?
Joey H (6 days ago)
Please humans, I ask you to stop what you're doing, close your eyes, and take a deep breath in and out. Life is so much fuller when you're not afraid. It's not easy to conquer it but it's worth it. It may seem like you cant do it... it's because you havnt done it yet. Playing worst case scenarios when it really didnt happen doesn't get you anywhere. I know it's scary. It happens to me. I'm slowly getting to a better state, only because I've started. I've started now.
Lucid Astropolis (7 days ago)
I thank you for posting this video. There are so many Youtubers doing these types of vids and I'm so glad. I watched 4 so far tonight and I'm already feeling better about my anxiety. This video, personally, made me feel like going out and meeting new people and I never ever feel that way. When people I don't know that well approach me or want to hang I always am the one to either cancel or make up some fony excuse. That is becoming my past now and I thank people like you for making me see it.
chan cb97 (7 days ago)
*thank you*
emperor zed (7 days ago)
lets admit it we have social anxiety because we are..... insecure to our faces.....have u ever seen an very good looking guy that is shy??? its like u won lotto if u find one
wolofubec 2593 (7 days ago)
For me having a social anxiety comes with a past experiences that made you feel embarrassed, for example experiences with people whose talking shit behind your back. I've experienced that I have social anxiety even right now due to negative experience. But you wouldn't believe me I have a lot of friends before but right now I don't even have one bestfriend. But I have a lot of casual friends. Right now, my girlfriend is my best best friend. And I'm loving and enjoying it :)
Arthur Doyle (7 days ago)
Aimil Dela Cerna (8 days ago)
I just discovered that i have social anxiety and I thought it is just me that felt this way 😭
Jeff Dunn (8 days ago)
I like your videos!
Great Stalin (8 days ago)
i am ruining the last few years i have left of high school i don't have friends I hate school
Basic Person (8 days ago)
Im trying to find solutions to why I am so afraid of looking someone in the eye and having a normal conversation with them without fucking it up.
Oneal Maloney (8 days ago)
I stutter really bad so this social anxiety ain't going nowhere 😫
OnlyJesus Saves (8 days ago)
Only Jesus and only Jesus can take care of you during Social anxiety, Jesus loves you and God the Father loves you, remember in the Bible it is written in the Gospel of Matthew 11:28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Also in Matthew 11:29 Jesus said Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. Accept Jesus in your heart and you will be saved from hell.
Ally (9 days ago)
I push myself everyday to do all these things but it doesn't get really better
Ally (9 days ago)
I don't feel like my fear is strong enough to be a phobia but I definitly feel very anxious about social contact, speaking with strangers, speaking with my classmates, speak infront of my class (HORRIBLE), going alone through the school building, asking the waiter for the bill, calling people I don't know (??weird??), saying something weird/embarassing/stupid, being stupid, asking for help, being in the club and being laughed at for how I dance/talk/sing/LITERALLY ANYTHING... man, life is stressful XD
Fornite ForTheWin (9 days ago)
I would be talking to a lot of girls what is stopping me is I got a bit of a stutter I think the people that I don't know if I talk to them and then i stutter they will think different about me what should I do?
Hardcore Gamers (9 days ago)
its killing me too,i recently got admission into university before i used to not give a shit about anything and lock my self in to room and play video games all day with minimal social contact but now when i have to go out and deal with people im clueless how to do it,fk man im struggling to find my way out of it
Bryan (9 days ago)
I'm not really shy or scared, I just shake a lot before I give a presentation to a group of people and sometimes stutter. But when I start giving a presentation, I lose pretty much all of the shaking. I don't know why I shake alot if Im really not scared of people judging or anything like that since I don't give a shit what people think.
BliTz (9 days ago)
My parents just don't get it I tell them that I have a problem talking to people and they tell me to go to my room and yell at me. This is the reason why I didn't want to tell thrm before.
Angelica Brooke (10 days ago)
My family keeps saying "get a job, you'll feel better about yourself." And that's the most frustrating thing to hear because for one, I already know this, and second, I literally can't help it..dont you think I want to be a successful woman and not be a 23 year old filled with such crippling anxiety?! I've had jobs, but I usually end up quitting. Currently looking for one now. It sucks being stuck like this.
Lewis Lockhart (10 days ago)
Best things I’ve ever taken
Zeke Morris (10 days ago)
Your like an uncle I never had.
Dilshan Chathuranga (11 days ago)
wow very important
curious question, has anyone here that actually has social anxiety overcame it by yourself?
Ramm90 (11 days ago)
There's no dealing with it... Take some medications, don't kill yourself and try to keep going. I KNOW how it feels. Good luck!
TK Anime - Anime Songs (11 days ago)
Man you're fuckin great
CT7567 (11 days ago)
My issue is I am always staring at random people because I’m terrified of people judging me
H3h3 H0h0 (12 days ago)
I'm having anxiety while watching this.
Specter (14 days ago)
It’s the second week of high school and i have skipped school two days in a row my mom was very mad at me for skipping school today, i just can’t handle anything anymore, i see girls at my school having fun while i’m trying not to cry, today i regret skipping school and i’m trying to make myself not to think about it but instead it get worst, just like yesterday i feel so scared about what have i missed at class or what if this happened or that or this and it keeps going on and on (even though we haven’t taking class because they haven’t given us our text books they only given us two so i don’t know why i’m worring) and i wakeup from my sleep unable to breath and coverd in sweat and crying it happened to me twice this week and i don’t want it to happen again tomorrow ;
Austin Hernandez (14 days ago)
You mentioned our friends or invitations or dating experiences. Well I can't relate because I have NO friends, I've NEVER been invited before in my life, and I've never dated dated before. This makes me feel worse because even others with social anxiety have more than I do.
Austin Hernandez (14 days ago)
This video isn't helpful to me really but it's not your fault, social anxiety is hard and I don't even understand my own problems. I greatly appreciate this video though. Thank for spreading awareness. And the comment section is great!
Bts :3 (15 days ago)
I have social anxiety really bad The other night i was asked to pay for gas I freaked out. I started breathing hard but in a weird way like to know when ur crying and u sniffle it was like that but the whole time just a beating breath. My eyes were watering and i backed up in my seat and was shaking, BAD. I couldn't move and my hands were just rubbing together while i was trying not to cause a seen in the parking lot. And it wasn't helping when she was screaming at me. i was just sitting there shaking while watching out for people around us And my mom got hella mad I don't think she gets it... Im struggling so bad and she thinks im making an excuse just so i don't have to do things but im not
H4zzers HG (15 days ago)
Ever been in class and someone just randomly asks you 'are you new here?'
mari mari (15 days ago)
I can't even sleep because of this problem.
Jared Kattersingh (15 days ago)
I need srs help, Im afraid to speak my mind and to be myself I always care what people think of me and it's hard to don't care what ppl think of me,99% of people in my school have some things agent's me.idk if is how I look, Orr if I'm to much of a nice guy .idk 😞
Ermengarde McAllister (15 days ago)
just keep breathin and breathin and breathin
Sara Vazquez (15 days ago)
Irrational* mate
Marisol Obando (16 days ago)
It's never on the person I am estranged from my FAMILY, I love my girlfriend PERIOD
Marisol Obando (16 days ago)
Thats fuckdd up you dont care ab real mental ANXIETY.
Süper Oyuncu (16 days ago)
I had some kind of anxiety but wasn’t too harsh. Now i’m in last year of my high school times. I’m going to make everything better. This is my last year in Turkey so i’am going to make most out of it. No need to worry about talking to people. It doesn’t even matter what they think as long as you control yourself and don’t be a douchebag nobody will tell bad things about you.
I'm always judged of what I eat I'm sick of it! This was for months,and I stoped eating even if I where hungry. People look at me like I'm SUPERR FAT! ...why wouldn't they leave me alone?
Dree Dree (18 days ago)
My social anxiety is just a weirdo I can’t even text someone because my social anxiety will freak out or I’ll freak out I had to hype myself up to talk to a new kid. I can’t go to parties and people always forget me because I’m so quiet and my mom will say I’m shy but I’m not I just get so scared my social anxiety will prevent me from doing anything.
Sumit Singha (18 days ago)
Sterling Archer (18 days ago)
My face turns red and my eyes start twitching
David Maxwell (18 days ago)
There are several things to try Find the reasons why you are shy - the first step in solving an issue is to understand why you have it. Be comfortable about yourself - this makes it easier when you meet other people. Challenge youself - you will gain confidence by taking action - especially by doing activities that push your boundaries. (I read these and more tips from Sartar shy method site )
Dejan Jankov (19 days ago)
here's several suggestions worth trying Work out why you are shy - the first step in solving an issue is to understand why you have it. Be comfortable with yourself - this makes it easier when you are with others. Challenge youself - you will become more confident by taking action - especially by doing things that stretch your boundaries. (I read these and more ideas from Sartar Shy Method website )
Dzeljana Pusiga (19 days ago)
I've been investigating treating shyness at home and found a fantastic website at Sartar shy method (google it if you are interested)
Grace Anne (19 days ago)
I have major social anxiety I can’t go to school or go out in public.
Xavier Quintero (19 days ago)
Do Generalized Anxiety Disorder cuz I have that and this social anxiety too plus codependency and a degree of depression. Pretty bad mix of all these things.
R S (19 days ago)
I have it so bad I start shaking 🤧😢 I just started school hoping I would do better than last year but for some reason it’s even worse .... shit sucks 😔
beastmasterbg (19 days ago)
I cured it when i started working construction
TimelordUk (19 days ago)
I like Aaron a lot, but I just can't take advice from him on social anxiety.
Jordan Potter (19 days ago)
Nice video. Nice hair cut. Great shirt!! :) :)
Hi, it's me Shanella (19 days ago)
i have a debate and i dont know how to defend it. i feel that i'll let my group down
christian tindugan (20 days ago)
I was walking on the isle and suddenly some people laughing but it wasn’t for me but it feels like it was toward me. When I was walking I usually leaning down my head because I feels like when I watch them it looks like they have something business to do with me or judging me and when I raise my head, I feel that they were laughing on me but they didn’t. When I was walking on the hallway and there are some students that chatting and when I pass them it seem that they are laughing but they aren’t. What is wrong with me? Do I have a phobia? Im 16 yrs old btw. It ruined my whole life.
Rip N Dip (20 days ago)
The comment section is very... interesting.
black soul (20 days ago)
you guys are talking about scoical anxity and you didn't experience arab weddings when you forced to go to a cousin wedding than a group of girls gathers to hold your hands to force u to dance in front of hundred of people and your mom start screaming by your name with fake smile and angry look "dance dance"!!!
vicky M (20 days ago)
I have social anxiety, and I want to go to a therapist, but I’m to scared to go to one because I don’t want anyone to judge me.
BethanYT (20 days ago)
I have a friendship group of 4 of us. I’m going back to school tomorrow and I just don’t want to make any more friends idk y. I am just so nervous about it. Like maybe I will loose my friends. Can anyone help x
Dhruv Goswami (20 days ago)
Any one facing same as I'M ? The social anxiety ? Let's help each others.. add me in fb.. fb.com/DhruvG18
Bills Realm (20 days ago)
I got over my social anxiety through medication. Before the medication I would always breakout and I’d start to get hives which made my skin really itchy. If you want to get over your anxiety all you gotta do is get help from a therapist and they’ll hook you up on some good medications.
Honey Singh (21 days ago)
when teacher asks some questions in a class.
Pinhead Larry (21 days ago)
A couple shots will fix ur social anything real quick. You can trust me
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Faith – (21 days ago)
I have social anxiety and I usually get told “step out you’re comfort zone” it’s hard cause those people don’t know how it feels man..
Antoni Balasz (21 days ago)
I have social anxiety since I was a kid. I was 7 years old when I realized something is not right. I cant participate in school programs or even in the class.I just cant talk or utter any word when someones looking at me.There is so many opportunities that i have missed because of this anxiety.Iam 31 years old now and still the same person.
Rio Illustrates (22 days ago)
I’m falling apart just listening to him and reading this shit. I can’t breathe
kym vaz-griffith (22 days ago)
I seriously never knew I had social anxiety till I watched this video I thought about it but I doubted it cause I'm only ten but note I think it's getting worse to the point where I won't eat cause I think I'm fast and I'm not pretty enough and I won't have conversations with anyone even my cousins and sisters and the worst part is i have to start g going to a whole new school and I'm afraid it will get worse when I get there and that it won't go away it also feels like everyone is looking down on me since ive changed alot this feeling seriously sucks but I feel safe so its so hard top break out
AwesomeADULTXD Xd (22 days ago)
Oh yeah when I'm myself I'm so savage and funny,but if i see someone even looking at me I'm dead
Death Night (22 days ago)
Me too and it sucks
Matt b Morris (22 days ago)
Hey man could you contact me at [email protected] please

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