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How To Deal With Social Anxiety | 5 Tips To Overcome Anxiety

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Alpha M. Confidence Course: http://aaronmarino.com/confidence-course Subscribe To Alpha M. https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting?sub_confirmation=1 My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services and Products: http://www.aaronmarino.com Alpha M. App: http://www.alphamapp.com/ My Website: http://www.iamalpham.com My Services: http://www.aaronmarino.com Free Hairstyle E-Book: http://http://www.iamalpham.com/ezine Best Hair Product: http://www.peteandpedro.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmAlphaM In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com and http://www.aaronmarino.com, discusses 5 tips to overcome social anxiety. Social anxiety is something that can be beaten if you take action and control of the situation. You deserve to be happy and experience great times with good people. This video will help you deal with social anxiety and provides some helpful tips to overcome anxiety. Do you get nervous and a little self conscious when you walk into a room of people you don't know? Butterflies and anxiety are normal when getting up and giving a speech in front of people. Social anxiety is beyond that-- it's an absolute fear. It's so strong that it prevents you from going places and doing things. It's limiting happiness and the ability to socialize. Social Anxiety Triggers Aaron Marino of alpha m. says social anxiety an irrational fear of embarrassing yourself or getting intensely scrutinized. Alpha covers triggers: meeting new people, being the center of attention, making small talk, public speaking, being called out in class, eating in public, going out on a date, using a public bathroom. Do You Have Social Anxiety? Warning signs are stressing and being anxious about doing everyday things; worrying for weeks before an event; feeling that you constantly being judged or picked apart. Behavioral symptoms are deciding not to go to attend an event, bringing along a friend, standing in the background, or drinking before going to an event. If you have more fear than fun, take the steps to get your social anxiety in check. Getting Social Anxiety Under Control 1.Challenge your own negative thoughts. 2.Learn to control your breathing. 3.Face your fear. 4.Seek professional help such as a therapist. 5.Medication.
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Irael Fuego (1 hour ago)
When I’m at a a mall and it’s packed I get anxious so much that I can’t walk right, the fear of being judged gets me uncomfortable.. I’m not antisocial I just prefer to have a one on one.
Irael Fuego (1 hour ago)
Thank you 💯
Mila Martin (10 hours ago)
I have a problem where when I have to go to a friends house or hangout I get loads of anxiety I almost feel sick to my stomach which makes it worse with my emetophobia
NYBOXER 01 (1 day ago)
Every example hit close to home. Also my face gets entirely red from whether I laugh too loud, too quiet, or when somebody looks at me. It got to the point where I wouldn’t raise my hand in class to ask the teacher for help because I didn’t wanna expose myself like that. This vid kinda helped. Still get red but not as bad. Thanks!
Justin Leonardo (1 day ago)
shit i relate!!
xxlCortez (2 days ago)
I'm so shy, I feel uncomfortable in my own company.
vLogix (2 days ago)
I’m like between both of having and not having social anxiety but mostly social anxiety
Lukman Hakim (2 days ago)
my problem is when it comes to beautiful women... i become super extra nervous..i can't look at her face when i'm talking to her
Zarun Malik (2 days ago)
Solutions 4:00
ulrey productions (3 days ago)
i get so tired after meeting everyone
Jozmy Costa (4 days ago)
When you are anxious about doing something do it and realize how its not that bad and that you can do it
Nazilatun Nimah (4 days ago)
• Cant talk in front of a lot people (presentation in the class) if they looking at me I feel dizzy, sweaty, and shaking (sometimes) • but If I talk to them in the normal way I think its ok -Not in the class. Really... What should I do... I feel so useless
JRigby90 (4 days ago)
What about when only people you dont want to see you are people from your area who have known you most of your life but you've lost yourself so much ur afraid and anxious about letting them see you including your closest ones over the years. Im so ashamed of myself that i dont want to face anybody who knows how well i used to be. My anxiety isnt as bad around people who dont know the old me. Yes i get nervous in public but not near as much. My anxiety is real i cant leave my bedroom because im afraid my sisters friends may come round while im in kitchen so when i do i have to rush and i cant bringg myself to leave house because im afraid ill see somebody who knows me n thats very common because i live in a counsel estate full of young people where almost everyone knows everyone. Please how could i overcome this i just want my life back, start working and get back in gym. Iv put on 4 stone in passs 2 years because of my anxiety i just want my old life back.
Is there any free therapist that I can speak to online? If anyone knows one, please comment!
Bantron PRO (4 days ago)
take the risk and then you will be good.....
Kinga Gorski (5 days ago)
Anxiety can be so crippling for people. Solid tips to overcome it.
"Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm." -- Winston Churchill
legend boy (7 days ago)
When im in group i can talk a bit but when face to face with someone its awkward
Lamari Piazza (8 days ago)
I hate being shy it’s the most worst thing a human can suffer shyness is cancer.
Alisha Wolfenbarger (8 days ago)
why do i have to be so weird and have social anxiety
Alisha Wolfenbarger (8 days ago)
i get scared just by thanking about hanging out with ppl. i try before and it didnt go good.
Shizzle1975 (9 days ago)
For all of you suffering from social anxiety I wouldn’t judge you.
binayak gc (9 days ago)
Tips no 6 : don’t think too much about anything, people have their own problem to deal so no one is interested in yours. Best you can do is go outside and try to help someone who needs it. They need you 😀
kingisback LJK (10 days ago)
my anxiety goes down when im alone
All books lover (10 days ago)
Everytime I am in the public, I don't take my phone out. I just feel like people would judge me or something. And if someone calls me, I would wait for the call to end and then text with the person.
Nic Tyrpenou (10 days ago)
in year 7 i was super confident and social in a matter of months i never go hang out with mates cos i’m anxious i’m in yr 9
The elite (12 days ago)
Idk if it’s just me but I randomly stare at people for some reason and I hate it it makes me feel like a weirdo and it ruins my self esteem
Steven Beast (12 days ago)
Wow never realized that I had this so bad now. Out of high school I was confident I went out with friends partied did sports socialized (but didn’t really consider myself extroverted) but it was until I dropped out of college and started working to pay off personal debts. It’s now 2019 and now I’m seeing a bunch of my friends progressing in their lives and I’m just now back in college and I’m so timid ! Not an ounce of confidence I started sweating on the first day of class when it was my turn to introduce myself. I hate social anxiety now that my old college buddies invite me places I make up excuses not to go and I just don’t feel like me anymore ):
Big L. (12 days ago)
I have a really hard time on public tracks, I'm going hard and somebody walks by the track and I slow down and start to walk... I just can't stop myself from thinking the wrong stuff because of passed issues in school
Perfectly Random (13 days ago)
I'm so weird and awkward but my friends think it's funny
Regret Makes me wet (13 days ago)
This guy is like an annoying elf
Kelle Burke (14 days ago)
Made me realise i have anxiety i quit my job because i got so anxious about the time i started work or i wont be able to sleep and feel like shit cos i have work the day after ! I know its silly but i cant help it :(
Brittany B (15 days ago)
I'm alright for the most part...I've got a regular mix of depression and anxiety, but my biggest issue lately with anxiety relates to social anxiety in that I can't go anywhere without an intense fear that I am going to run into people from high school. I don't know why...it's not a cute edgy thing like "oh my god, lol I hate running into people from high school"...it's like a legitimate fucked up feeling. I went to the grocery store last night and I had a panic every time I walked through each isle..and an even more intense fear of a scenario playing in my head like "what if I do see someone and they look at me, or holy shit even start talking to me?!" Shit sucks...I came home and told my fiance that I didn't want to bitch about my problem, but that I was in a sour mood because my terrible anxiety was making me angry because it's something I can't control. P.S. I've tried medications..didn't find one that worked and I didn't want to take the more intense drugs my doctor was naming off. I'm just going to manage my depression and anxiety with things that help me pretty well: bubble baths, meditation, asmr videos, and watching videos about my problems like this so I at least know I am not alone.
worthless crew (16 days ago)
My stomach starts to hurt so bad due to my social anxiety I get so anxious it makes me throw up
Sarcasm innit? (17 days ago)
I know it's bad to say this but seeing so many people suffering the same thing I have makes me feel better and I'm not saying It's a good thing but I feel very very lonely.
Duyfer fur (16 days ago)
Do you want to fix it?
Hentaï :P (17 days ago)
Im heavily socially anxious, i never talk in class,constantly wondering or being scared of what people think of me...
Duyfer fur (16 days ago)
You wanna fix it?
Faegan Mara (18 days ago)
I’ve always been a “social butterfly” but one day something that traumatized me happened and I feel like everyone is looking at me and talking about me it gets to the point err I walk really weird trying not to take big steps to were I walk very small hoping that it isn’t drawing an attention. I am also so scared to go places with my family including water parks, the beach places that people my or around my age will be because I feel so judged because of my weight and looks and it scares me horribly....
Joel B (19 days ago)
Hey guys, I used to suffer from extreme social anxiety. At one point it was so bad, I locked myself in my room for a year and half. Rarely leaving. I was able to overcome my phobias and now wish to help as many socially anxious people as possible. If you would like to read a more detailed version of my story then please visit this link. https://www.gofundme.com/i-want-to-meet-the-girl-i-fell-in-love-with&rcid=r01-155101664311-e1037b1764f14fe4&pc=ot_co_campmgmt_w Any kind of support would be forever appreciated. And if there is a person reading this who is going through something similar I went through, then please dont hesitate to message me. I'm here for you no matter what.
RandomGirl 1234 (20 days ago)
I get self conscious when I walk into a room of people I know and it sucks sometimes
Tiana Castro (20 days ago)
I’m 14 and i’m homeschooled for this year (8th grade). I got homeschooled cause I begged my grandma to let me and I thought it would make me happier. Last year I lost basically all of my friends because they were fake or stopped talking to me. I have 2 friends and I barely hang out with them. One of them asked me to go somewhere with her this weekend but I didn’t reply because I don’t think I can. I’m sick of getting anxiety. I’m afraid that I won’t know what to say or that it’ll be really awkward or uncomfortable. I’m missing out on a lot of things because of this and it’s so frustrating. I see a therapist but she doesn’t give me advice and she fucking sucks. She prescribed me with medicine that doesn’t work and just makes me sad. I realized there’s nothing that’s gonna help this. I’m always gonna have it and there’s nothing I can do. This is really making me depressed. I’m sick of staying in my room all the time and I wanna go out but just can’t. It’s not normal to be this anxious around your own friends. They don’t understand so they probably think I’m a flake and a bitch. I cant even talk to my own sister (who’s 28) because it’s awkward and I don’t know what to say. I always don’t know what to say or don’t know what to talk about it’s horrible. I’m jealous of people who are good at socializing cause I would do anything for it. I wanna see if I can go out next weekend (cause i’m buying rlly good makeup and maybe that’ll make me feel better about myself) and hang out with my friend. I’m gonna try and that’s really all I can do. Maybe I just have to say fuck it and think it’s only gonna be a few hours and I’ll get through it and look back on it later and say it wasn’t that bad. This is just extremely depressing, I don’t know how I’m gonna go to public high school next year..
T K (21 days ago)
what if the negative thoughts are real??
Krista R (22 days ago)
I pace around my house for 20 minutes just thinking on how I can mess everything up and having a panic attack. And then just at school it is a lot worst. Now everting is getting a lot worst and maybe one day I won’t be amble to leave my house
Big B- Reacts (22 days ago)
You are helping me! I love it! Thank you!! I have a traumatic brain injury and it’s hard for me to get out there and do things ever! My social anxiety is worse than it ever has been. But you are helping me, thank you 😊
josh thumperluck (22 days ago)
I listened to you and walked to the shop first time in 3 years I looked good then these two 10 year olds started swearing at me and starting on me this happened when a fit girl walked past aswell and she had a grin like why these kids yelling at you I was 22 aswell always happens too me lol
Ohemaa Wiredu (23 days ago)
I hate walking to school on my own and seeing people that I know when I’m on my own when they are in a big group it just makes me really nervous and uncomfortable and I’m very awkward when talking to people someone help😭😬😩
Mantralightofangels (25 days ago)
I have a very hard time after going to the store. I come home and feel weird for a long time and disconnected. I hate leaving my house. Going to the store leaves me feeling just out of it mentally and physically. Can’t explain it. I hate it.
Ishmael Dominique (25 days ago)
Thank you 🙏 good vibes only
Peter Wilkinson (26 days ago)
I do speeches in front of people naked 🙂
Sad Girl Em BROKEN (26 days ago)
He is wearing a shirt with a bee on it and I’m in the school spelling bee and I’m nervous trying to watch this vid to get rid of that.. what has life come to
m (1 month ago)
I'm 34 and not married and anxiety has literally destroyed my life, I have missed out on so many opportunities and messed up interviews. My family has always just considered me the 'quiet and shy one' but I always knew its deeper than that. It is only a few years ago that I googled myself. I'm in South Africa and if anyone wants to be my anxiety buddy please comment. I would really love to talk to someone in my situation. Usually it's people with Normal shyness and a lot of them have a get over it attitude towards the whole situation
SUCK MY ERECT BALLS (24 days ago)
34??? Omg I’m only 17 no offence dude if it carries on that long (for me specifically) I’d have no choice but to kill myself. That’s not a life I’d wanna live bc my anxiety makes it really bad...
Andre's L. (24 days ago)
m I feel ya man but I’m only 18. Gotta find a cure
What about when you're so deep into depression that you have broken the contact with all your friends and when you get ready to go out and meet them you have a panic attack when looking in the mirror because you feel so fucking disgusting that you just break down and cancel the plans? Make a video on that.
ABARTH ABARTH (1 month ago)
2:14 is where video actually starts!
Dash V (1 month ago)
What’s wrong with your right eye?
Ayu Sarah (1 month ago)
Im not negative thinking but me and my classmates have a chat group. I asked something without thinking any negative thought but i got no answered. Just got tease tho
iIvan ;-; (1 month ago)
Is it just me or when i walk around people i dont know i dont walk normally and i cant control my eyes i just scratch them to make me feel better (idk it just feels weird around people looking at you) *Please Dont Tell Me Its Just Me* (ps: i wear masks everyday) Edit: One more thing, when i feel someone is staring at me,my face feels heavy (weird right😐)
Carolina Topete (1 month ago)
I'm meeting my boyfriend parents tomorrow night I'm so nervous its giving me bad anxiety lol
Ella xo (1 month ago)
I think I'm extroverted but sometimes, there's situations where I feel physically sick....like at an interview, walking into a space , asking someone who works in a store where something is , returning an item, just silly things like that, but they make my stomach hurt .
mae may (1 month ago)
i have social anxiety still stuggling to find a job.
STEFANIA (1 month ago)
Watching this before class lmao rip
Felix Johnbull (1 month ago)
Cool
SargeCP (1 month ago)
I feel like I'm an alien when I'm around anyone is that bad?
Simran Sangha (1 month ago)
Last time I had to do a project and had to talk to people, I fainted, I have to do it again soon and I’m terrified I’m gonna faint again lol
thatguy (1 month ago)
Thing is I can act cool,calm, and rational but my heart beat,red face, and sweating everything says otherwise.
Spaghetti Tosser (1 month ago)
I have very severe social anxiety and I want to get better but for some reason I’m scared to. Is that normal?
Shira (1 month ago)
I hate myself and the way my brain works. Someone please end me
Jaqen H'ghar (1 month ago)
took me some time to get comfortable around my coworkers when I just started... but then theres the company party with other departments, and Im like " 3:00 "
losa sakarosa (1 month ago)
i was a person who was never socially awkward, i was so positive and didn't give a shit about what people thought of me. I then became friends with a really toxic person that changed my perspective of life and was constantly judging everything about me resulting in me to overthink every little dumb ass thing. I then started to get really self conscious about my appearance which resulted in my eating disorder, and now im just an awkward mess who overthinks shit and hates herself :)
Soni Pal (1 month ago)
No tips and tricks works. when it happens it happens.
ATS (1 month ago)
Sucks at offivr workplace
Cameron Sanchez (1 month ago)
I have a feeling of anxiety listening to everything you're saying... just thinking about what it would be like for me to talk to others
Cameron Sanchez (1 month ago)
I notice there's a dot on his left eye...nothing wrong with that but does anyone else notice? Lol but seriously though this videos good...I'm to the point where I can't even get up and ask my teacher for help...part of the reason I have pretty bad grades....I don't want people to hear me talking to the teacher apparently
Cubefarmer Hkc (1 month ago)
I didn’t know I had this disorder until I was in my mid 30s. I’m 40 now and I really just don’t like being around people at all. I have accepted it.
Mindy Michaels (1 month ago)
i want that shirt for reals thats a sweet lil design
Issac Pre-Med (1 month ago)
I was uncomfortable around everyone and was in fear of everyone even family that I was super comfortable with and it started once I got into college and started being a loner. It’s completely gone now, but those were some rough 3 yrs.
AZander06 (1 month ago)
I can't run in front of any one it just fells dumb and I want to but I cant
Ÿxsisbs (1 month ago)
My social anxiety is so bad I decided to not show up to my birth
Corey Benmargi (1 month ago)
You can meat me because I stutter and it's not a good feeling I can't say anything I want to
Arturo Beltran (1 month ago)
Man, I can't even think when I got like this. It gets my frustrated and pissed off that I feel this way because I don't know what caused this to develop in my head. I have always been an introvert but had never had a problem with that until I started feeling super anxious at around age 23. There was this one time when I was still in the university and was in the office to see my financial counselor. There were two other women sitting there too, waiting. Then this one guy walks in all nervous and trying to play it off by talking so much that even the receptionist looked uncomfortable because she didn't know what to say to continue the conversation with him. Then when the receptionist told him to take a seat he came over, sat and just kept looking around and trying to make conversation. He just started talking to us 3 people sitting in the waiting area by talking loud and saying he was in a psychology class. We just sat there like "okay?" And then he says, isn't funny how we all just try to play it off like we are comfortable? He then points us out and says she (one of the girls) is on her phone, she (other girl) is reading a magazine but is shaking her leg up and down. And he (me) has his headphones on to listen to music. Ugh, that shit just gets me mad now just thinking about it. I feel that was one of the things that unlocked a part of my brain that made me be more self conscious. My point of this whole thing is. Don't freaking point things out of other people just to feel better about yourself. Now I feel like everyone is watching what I do, even my breathing. I try to relax when I am anxious but then I feel that people will see me taking deep breaths and will right away be judging.
Alex (1 month ago)
Totally me :(( Really nice video btw!
Jesus is the way (1 month ago)
Not sure why God forbid but I been feeling dizzy and anxious when in shops 🤷🏻‍♀️
Shubham Mishra (1 month ago)
?? !!!!
Caser (1 month ago)
My social anxiety is that bad I’m scared of hanging out in a group of people I know at school
Benjamin (1 month ago)
Alpha m. You are a gem
Dashrath Bhatiya (1 month ago)
So I'm not alone
Alex Csillag (1 month ago)
I wish people would invite me to places.... when they do its a blessing, but it is mostly family members not friends.
MrFredstt (1 month ago)
My lack of self confidence and social anxiety/awkwardness has actually been stopping me from getting a job and then I feel even worse because I have no money
Gabriela Serrano (1 month ago)
Am I the only person who stutters or shakes when in public/social situations?? Like I feel uncomfortable in my own skin and feel like I can't grab something without having my hands get shaky. I forget how to talk because I overthink e v e r y t h i n g. Then I get paranoid that everyone's looking at me. 😞
Gabriela Serrano (1 month ago)
+Jay Jade I can only imagine... I feel like in the end, its all about opening your perspective to a point where you can shift your focus from going through the endless negative possibilities of what a person can be thinking about you to what you can do to be confident and just have a good time :)
Jay Jade (1 month ago)
you're not alone. it's even more difficult for men.
Gabriella Hardy (1 month ago)
I absolutely love this video, thankyou so much
Shoaib Khan (1 month ago)
I also know problem of some people. In which they have written that when I talk with any girls then my eyes fall on unpleasant place or private part. Because of this’ they avoid ayes contact with every person including man and girl. I have persnol experienc that you avoid viewing porn video for a month. Then 0You can see change self. I know it’s difficult at starting. Social anaxity is kind of two; first is because of shy. Second is because of above reason. I suggest that please stop viewing porn video
babyboocici1913 (1 month ago)
I can’t even go to the store
yessenia santiago (1 month ago)
I don’t think medication is going to help with social anxiety
i Loks (1 month ago)
Grate advise
StoneBrain (1 month ago)
Dont think of what to say before hand! Not a good idea. 3:47
Thinkerbell b (1 month ago)
I have massive social anxiety, majority of the time it can just be too much stimuli i think and it overwhelms me. Not sure how to categorize that kind of anxiety. Course, is made worse when i ramble.
Jayquan Floyd (1 month ago)
I've been at that position because of a wake up call in my past. It was a big struggle of my highschool life and a little bit of my freshman year in college
Sbond icles (1 month ago)
why did i relate so hard to this
Disney Theroeum (1 month ago)
This video made me anxious
David Cipriano (1 month ago)
so this is my problem: I have never been an introvert, I have just felt a little out of place and I never made friends in high school. Going to a commuting college never improved my chances of meeting new people, until I decided to see it in myself that it is time to date and make friends because NOBODY deserves to be alone. I joined a club at school and I really liked it, but most of these members seem to have anxiety of sorts and it is kind of a turn off. Last semester I was really tired of school and was going through some anxiety and crazy thoughts (something I had never experienced but given the circumstance of a taking a really shitty class with a shitty professor, it happened). I really tried to ground myself and find myself surrounded with a couple of friends I made but I just couldn't really go out with them since they have their own life going on. I went a whole month without really going out and having fun, and I think I have developed anxiety of sorts. I begin to have negative thoughts and I just think about those people from school and how they behave in public, like if they're on edge. I really need to save myself, but idk how since people that I know don't seem to hang out even when I ask. :(
MrSilver2nd (1 month ago)
Caused by a set of self limiting beliefs... Some rational while many irrational. The amigdala kicks into high gear and the hypersensitivity takes control. Most people retreat into solitude and into their own internal world while others take and aggressive externalized approach. Personalities high in neuroticism are the biproduct. The origins of this social disorder can be both genetic and epigenetic. Such people will not fair well in relationships with other socially anxious people. What is required is the companionship of a secure and empathetic person in a relationship. Its challenging to reverse the damage caused by experience and may be impossible to completely undo it however decreasing the intensity of the experience can help in making profound improvement in the quality of life of the individual. Mentoring/coaching is very helpful. Establishing meaninful relationships and having that home base helps in subduing the sense of threat. Developing a level of indifference towards the opinion of others also helps but must be monitored as to not get out of control and create and indifference towards society and consequently a disdain for humanity. Important - a mild sense of anxiety in social settings is healthy. Also it is helpful to focus your interests on others around you and to get your focus off of yourself. Set the goal of learning about others prior to engaging in social activity and you will make improvements and possibly new friends. Godspeed
روائع (1 month ago)
Take care when you are going to get marriage otherwise your children they will have the same suffer and pain same to you you are suffering because of your parents deliver this to you

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