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In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com and http://www.aaronmarino.com, discusses 5 tips to overcome social anxiety. Social anxiety is something that can be beaten if you take action and control of the situation. You deserve to be happy and experience great times with good people. This video will help you deal with social anxiety and provides some helpful tips to overcome anxiety.
Do you get nervous and a little self conscious when you walk into a room of people you don't know? Butterflies and anxiety are normal when getting up and giving a speech in front of people. Social anxiety is beyond that-- it's an absolute fear. It's so strong that it prevents you from going places and doing things. It's limiting happiness and the ability to socialize.
Social Anxiety Triggers
Aaron Marino of alpha m. says social anxiety an irrational fear of embarrassing yourself or getting intensely scrutinized. Alpha covers triggers: meeting new people, being the center of attention, making small talk, public speaking, being called out in class, eating in public, going out on a date, using a public bathroom.
Do You Have Social Anxiety?
Warning signs are stressing and being anxious about doing everyday things; worrying for weeks before an event; feeling that you constantly being judged or picked apart. Behavioral symptoms are deciding not to go to attend an event, bringing along a friend, standing in the background, or drinking before going to an event. If you have more fear than fun, take the steps to get your social anxiety in check.
Getting Social Anxiety Under Control
1.Challenge your own negative thoughts.
2.Learn to control your breathing.
3.Face your fear.
4.Seek professional help such as a therapist.
Just got a great new job but have training for a whole month that consists of role playing and presentations almost everyday. I'm trying to figure out how to get through this. Everyday is an internal struggle.
I have social anxiety but i don't dare to tell anyone because i know they are just going to send me to a counselor or a therapist .
i get nervous eating in front of people ( even my family ) i couldn't even swallow properly without worrying if anyone is judging me . I also get uncomfortable breathing alot of times when I'm out or when im with alot of people . And when im walking outside i feel so uncomfortable thinking that people is looking at me and because of that i tend to stumble alot when i walk.
I get really worried if someone is standing beside or behind me even if its far away . I tend to also hide alot when im out.
and also i don't dare to express my feelings much when im with my family , i feel like if they try to understand they are trying too hard and its uncomfortable , and sometimes when my mum says things that i feel offensive or selfish ( she's not a really consideate person) , i really feel like shedding even a tear would be nice but i always hold myself back and have some reality pep talk in my head .
I feel like i'll never get over my social anxiety. I've had it since i was 4 years old. I am currently 14 and i do not feel comfortable leaving my room to go downstairs because i imagine people looking at me and making fun of me every time i move a muscle. I started high school in september, and I still haven't talked to anyone, made eye contact, actually said full sentences, and I don't feel comfortable drinking water, breathing, eating, etc because of the noises those things make, and i feel like it brings negative thoughts to other people about me. I want to be invisible, but I also want friends. I honestly wish I could kill myself, but i know how much my family cares about me, and even though they do, i still feel unwanted, stupid, terrible, annoying, depressed, and any bad adjective. My family says that i should step out of my comfort zone and try to talk to people, but I don't have a comfort zone because i don't feel safe doing anything a normal person does. Because of this, i can't see myself being much more than a waste of life in the near future. I wish i had someone to talk to, but i don't want to be noticed. I won't get better, and I know it. I hate myself.
Yesterday i went outside to watch dance battle. I feel so nervous i dont know why. I feel like im gonna pass out seeing too many people. I feel like i was in the stage dancing with unknown people. Sorry for my bad English.
I have to go to a trampoline park soon. I don’t have many friends that live around here, and my one best friend can’t go. I already got tickets and they were pricey. I would feel horrible if I wasted it and didn’t go😬 but I’m scared to be alone and I don’t wanna be uncomfortable for a long period of time.
It’s in a few days and oof
I never knew I had social anxiety 🤔
Literally all of the points remind me of..me. I think I have it pretty as as well. I DO worry that people are judging me all the time. And every little thing I do I fell is going to be amplified
I have a art competition that I have to attend to and I’m sooo scared...like we have to do a interview and last time I did a interview it didn’t go well. It gets so bad that I literally start to shake and I can’t even pronounce a word..I stutter and loose train of thought. It’s so hard and no body..not even my closest friend understands me. I feel like I’m alone. It feels like your standing back while everyone else is going forward and I’m just watching. Idk anymore. My mind is my own killer and I’m tired of it.
I was talking to my friend and this kid from one of my classes came up to me and asked : “ _Why don’t you talk in class_ ?” I was trying to come up with a reasonable response but I realized how long I was standing in silence so I just shrugged. My parents usually question me when I don’t want to go to a public school function even if my friend is going.I’ve been more distant from my family because it feels like they don’t want me there or would rather be talking to someone else.It’s just hard ya know?
Edit: I only have one friend rn lol.Most of them left because I was to clingy or maybe not clingy enough idk 😐
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I cant sit in front of class because i feel like everyone is staring at the back of my head and watching my every move even though i know theyre not. Ive even skipped classes because i was 5 minutes late and there were no seats in the back. Just one of my MANY every day problems with social anxiety and just anxiety in general.
I have social anxiety and I also have a breathing disorder, so even when I freak out due to the anxiety I can’t just take deep breaths and calm down. It’s terrible, even around my best friends I get stuck thinking about how stupid I must look, and how stupid I must sound, then I just stop talking and then I worry that they think I’m weird because I’m not talking enough, it’s terrible! I just want to feel normal and happy! It feels like I’m missing out on everything fun.
*This Happens To Me Alot, I'm In A UK High School On The Final Year At The Moment And We Usually Have To Do Long Talks In Front Of The Class, And Trust Me On This One Mr. Alpha, I Literally Pissed Myself From That Fear*
I moved school districts 2 years ago... and still haven't made any good friends. I have like casual friends to talk to, but no friends that I'm close with. I always see people who went to the school district their entire life, so they are extremely close with EVERYONE. At my old school I wasn't friends with everyone, but I had MUCH better friends. None of my friends here are "invite to a sleepover close".
I can go out to a store but if I run into someone who wants to talk I have the worse panic attach. I've dealt with this crap all my life and it's getting worse because I stay at home now being unable to work from other health problems. I
Okay guys I've been dealing with this since I was 18, I'm 22 now.
I've noticed this is quite common in young adults, is this something that will naturally go away with age? Or I can have this for the rest of my life?
My social anxiety is SO BAD that I decided to not wear a scarf (I am Muslim) bc I didnt want any sort of attention and with all this "terrorism" u stereotypes going around in my high school. I know everyone would start judging me.the worst part is im too afraid to tell ANYONE I know or trust
History - got bullied in my new school for a year didn't had a freinds used masturbation to cheat my feelings,never asked for help everytime i retailate bullying got worst,stopped to react only pain pain pain then its nothing nothing nothing,school got changed meeted new live without knowing i am heavily socially Anxious never talked to a girl upfront,got addicted to porn and become lazy and studiou,no one saw sadness in my heart,lived in fear and hate
Present---6 years later---Still lives in fear of getting bullied,don't have any genuine friends still no one can see sadness in my heart everyone thinks i am shy,lazy or stupid.Kicked some bullies asses during these times but yea peace is all i desire trying to stop my porn addiction,badly addicted now.It's so fcking crazy no one asked how i feel? am i good? do i need help?? in all these years
Parents say just study and life will be better.Yea it can get only better after death nothing can change it now.I wasn't aware of the concept suicide during i got bullied now i think i should have died there,its just suffering i give to everyone wasting others time and money all i do-----------fck me i am so retarded to write this i should just study,then atleast can make some fake friends who will just going to use me or if i got luck some will bully me then i can get a reason to destroy someone......ahh having fakers all rounds is so nice its kill you everyday,they talk like friends to each other but leave you out during fun times,only fun you can have with them is when you gett bullied ----year or before o thought of killing them but i am not that stupid i know i will go to jail,,,,, fack i have counsellor for free here in my college once(2 years ago) i went to her she did warn living in fear will make you life shit,but i can't do anything about it ,i fought with my bullies but then friedns come make them appear like victim hello??wtf??You destroy one another stands up,but oviously there are coward so they keep there distance now!!!!
I know its my mistake i don't go to people to talk and make genuine friends but i am afraid i see people who are better than me,hell,i don't even have self respect i can call myself bitch and would not guess why its wrong to say a bitch a bitch even though i am a a guy............too much stupid shit but yeh i can write all of this here means presently i am in peace,nopppp i am going to be butchered in my exams this month end i don't study at all,i am making a reason for my suicide bc you know what if i suicide now no one can guess the reason, but if i will have a all rounder shit life i guess then they can,,,,,,,,,,i lie to my parants they thinks i am doing best in my life.............someone will sure thinks i am doing this for attention na broo, i used to keep a diary where i used to write to write all dark stuff but i stopped doing that now its building up,i want to let it out,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,obviously i am not going to end my life.......i otaku have no reason to live and no reason to die.............my english is poor i think you call these type of comments rants i ranted my self...cause i hate myself i dont hate mu life i hate my lazy,full of fear,child like,retarded also i lie to myself and everyone else it doesn't matter if no one read this i am going to read this everyday(lie)to remember that this is what i am,bc i forget this when i pretend to fit in society------wtf???why am so retarded (btw i don;t know how retards)but i like this insult when i say it to myself--fckkkk offffffffff
Omg all of this is me tho ex:i never talked in class and always got nervous if a teacher called me and i had so much anxiety so i left school and got homeschooled and i dont want to talk to people cause i get really nervous and i start hyperventilating
I've missed on 10 yrs worth of promotions because I would miss meetings or go missing during social events at work, like christmas parties......everyone at work caught on.....they all connected the dots and realized that I had social phobia. This made my going to work even worse because everyone knew, like my social anxiety is a secret yet everyone at work has found out. Id rather be perceived as a snob and rude than to be labeled as a social phobe. How embarassing! I am also brutally awkward when I talk to people and I can't control my eyes, I look angry and weary. It's a mess.
I have anxiety about my chest area I never show it I cover all. My. Body up I'm. Scared all the other people don't do it it's just me it's so embarrassing because I have alot of boys in my house only 4 girls and 7 boys I have alot on consiesness I have had consiesness for about 2 to 3 years nearly 4 since I was nine growing in the area I'm. Just scared I can do it when. My. Mom's. Around but no. Body abuse. My. Mom. Has the same. Life cause she's a girl
I see your videos more and more and you give great advice. I'm surprised you broach this topic because you seem like such a confident person...but I guess all humans struggle with the same things. Thanks for this video!
In some cases challenging my negative thought has helped and in other cases made me seem awkward, which just makes me panic and more negative thoughts come in. Sometimes to the point where i avoid that person for the rest of the day. If i face my fear a lot of the time it makes it worse. And i am afraid if seeing a therapist. What do i do
There are many components to reducing shyness quickly . One resource I discovered that successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (check it out on google) definately the best resource i've seen. look at all the amazing information .
I'm seeing a therapist, and she tells me that I need to write down my thoughts and separate feeling and real evidence. It's a good tip but I'm not good at it. Medication is not a good long term solution imo. Tried doing it, supervised by a specialist, but even they recommend not taking it (more than 2 weeks) because its addictive and makes you dependent. I don't know honestly. But to the people who are reading this, if you have social anxiety and still have friends, do not leave them. I'm saying this from personal experience, it doesn't help. It makes you more afraid because then you won't have any reference for any social etiquette.
Your tips are great but my anxiety is in control everything you said that social anxiety effects. Effects me. I'm trying in life but you know anxiety can put you in the mud and well I'm in the mud. People watch me but say nothing and when they do say stuff negative thing come at me. I'm get bullied. I call my self the outcast. But yeah my social anxiety would lessen if people tried to be my friend.
no one can help me, i talk to much then people say how annoying i am....... I have Aspergers but not on a sever level, I don't understand sarcasm that well or emotions..... and my anxiety gets way worse then most people, and i end up wanting to kms because I'm different and no one wants to be around me....
Im 13 and have been avoiding taking a guitar test in music I hate bwing under preasure its like 2 minutes probably and the way its done is u go to the teachers desk and play in front of him but its every friday and I keep missing fridays cause of it
lol my anxiety is so bad that i saw a couple people that i knew over social media at the movie theatre and they whispered something and laughed all i heard was my name but i was crushed for days i have no idea why i am like this
Hii Mr alpha sir ..did you really take a look at the comments below...the people are actually crying including myself so please do something to make all people in this comment section to know each other please sir it's my humble request
I'm in home for three days for fear of anxiety and I had a consultant year ago that didn't work.guess what my life is damn as hell ruining.im not kidding here folks...help me if there's anyway to combat this fucking anxiety
I have been struggling with social anxity most of my life, but recently with the help of videos like this I was able to overcome it to the point that I can say that I am happy the way I'm living right now.
I uploaded a video with the hope that I can help someone overcome this irrational fear that is social anxiety.
If you see this please answer me. I don't know if I am socially awkward. I am afraid to start a conversation because I feel I am gonna messed up everything and look like a weirdo. I always think everyone are judging me and I don't feel comfortable to speak infront of people. Is this social anxiety or am I just shy?
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